> Working women! Future of India?

^25 is not too old an age for a girl to get married..infact my sis got married when she was 26 after completing her BE and working for 4 years... Yeah, in this case,it gets hard for a girl as qualified as a PHD to find a suitable groom matching her status..but its not really impossible.. She may evn find a suitable match in her very workplace among her fellow PHD colleagues..but tht depends whether intercaste marriage is okay with her family or not (which in most cases, isnt.. ) ....
But i dont understand why indians are so obsessed with the marriage of their daughters..i dont understand why her father has to be depressed about her...Being a PHD means she is quite capapble enuf to take care of her own life, make her own decisions and evn run a household on her own.. Why dont ppl look at tht aspect? Even if their daughters are highly qualified, they brush it aside, and keep worrying about her marriage... And what happens to those girls who are this qualified after marriage? most of them have to sit at home because its the girl who has to make the sacrifice for the family.. Evn if she happens to be highly qualified..
Evn if a wife is working, most husbands take the jobs of their wives for granted...they tend to forget tht at the workplace, same rule applies for all..men or woman, no bar...But they think tht it shud be easy for a wife to take a leave from her job as and when required...So yeah, this chauvinistic thinking has to be changed to accept tht women can be as good(or evn better) an earning hand in the house as the men themselves..

What really sucks is this mentality tht women cannot live alone and tht no matter how much they are qualified, they have to rely on some strong shoulder for their lives.. If a guy is qualified and has a good job and he decides to stay a bachelor for life, ppl dont make much hue n cry about it, but imagine the same situation for the women...it becomes a nightmare for them and their family members to live in a society then, answer the same old question asked by millions of their so called well wishers (who dont really give a damn), "when is ur daughter getting married?" , "did u find a suitable match for ur daughter...she is getting old" and other such nonsense...
Why dont these idiots leave the hapless girl alone? Marriage is one of life's biggest decision (atleast in india) and everybody has the right to decide whether s/he wants to marry or not...and if s/he is capable enuf to take care of her/himself, i dont see the reason why marriage shud be the priority among all things? Living alone is not a big deal in many other countries...why does it have to be here in india?

Kahin aapki choriyon ka influence to nahin hai kahin aap ko dekha dekhi woh bhi

anyway detailed arguments later. Here is the problem. Everyone who has posted has just looked at money and that alone. Don't get me wrong, and i don't want to point fingers at one guy but why do you have to study in Australia or US. I can think of it for only one reason, you really like the field and you want to do research in that and deep research. But most of the times people go abroad to earn more money with say a MBA degree They don't become scientists or researchers, they just join the same MNC's there or come back and start working their asses off.

There is nothing wrong with that as such but if money is going to be your sole criteria then frankly you can't expect anything else. Many people just squander off the money in parties, clubs or pubs. It can be their idea of enjoying life. But a guy not doing all that can also have a good enjoyable life.

If at the end of the day you are planning to work 17 hours a day, you are leading a failed life If woman in the house is also working then you cannot expect much.

All gender equality talk is fine but people carry it too far. If you look at nature also the females have to look after the children(and hunt around also, in cases of say lions, the bugger males have a gala time. The lioness does the killings and lions eat and enjoy :lol) The point is that someone does tkae care of the children. So basically the equality is not there in nature itself across species, how can it exist in Humans?

Personally working is fine if its an 8 hour job, or even 10. If you are spending your time at work more than that, you are asking for all the related problems that are being seen now. Look at US. Look at the divorce rates in the central bible belt and the more free materialist coastal belt. If the priorities are wrong, then this is expected.

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Safin's Signature:

so many long posts ...

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The Joker's Signature:

^^hahaha true But anyways i ended up reading 'em all

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Saiyan's Signature:

Namakool, abhi se bigad raha hai... I remember, I used to be so seedha saadha at his age.. Mera bas chale toh, us shaitaan ki haddi ko maar maar ke seedha kar doon...

I agree.. There are others ways to enjoy life than indulging in partying and booze...



Sometimes its not the working hours alone but the added time one spends commuting to and from office, spending time in the long queues for trains and buses tht make the experience more harrowing..In a big city like Bombay whr ppl are coming from far off suburbs, taking a bike or a car to office everyday is simply not practical..so the only other options left are trains and buses..
I for one, have to travel 4 hours (2+2) everyday to and from office and add to that the working hours from 10.00 to 7.00 which usually gets stretched many a times...So thts like spending 13 hours on working days... Thr is no other alternative...


Well, thts why i say tht someone has to make a compromise in such a situation...But, then i'm not against women working, as i said earlier tht 2 earning hands are always better than one no matter how much u earn..
Though in this scenario, my point is simple..dont expand ur family then... Earn, spend on urselves and enjoy a bindaas life devoid of any responsibilities... YOu cannot and shud not think of having the best of both worlds... If u do, one of them will surely get messed up in the long run..

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Private Ryan's Signature:

aah i know how it feels to stay in a family where both parents work and have no time for u.. it really sucks...some parents and children can manage while others cannot, and when the child grows up the parents do not know what is wrong with their child who was simply devoid of love and affection when it was most needed.

I agree with the point on earn and njoy thats how it should be. I know my aunt gave up her high paying job to take care of her kids cause she knows very well that they need her the most now.

and the future of india isn't working women but stay at home dads

btw there is also a nice business opportunity here for crèches

reminds me, both my dad and mom both used to work when i was small, both were government employees. Used to come back home at 2pm itself hehehe. So i hardly missed the company of both . Now my mom is not working though.

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Saiyan's Signature:

Yeah...hehe..they are working overtime these days.. i'm afraid they'll have to start a night service too for kids of bpo employees..

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